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WHAT MEDDLING PARENTS CAN DO TO ADULT CHILDREN 

Courtesy, Now Unbanned Publications c.c.

Renette Vermeulen

 

This story is illustrative of the Scriptural study, DEALING WITH ABUSE AND ABUSERS GOD’S WAY 

Contents

PETER LOVED MARY BUT HIS CORRUPT, CONTROLLING PARENTS INSISTED ON HIS EX GIRLFRIEND 

ABUSE AND INTERFERENCE PUSHED THE COUPLE INTO MARRIAGE 

THEY FORCED THE SHAMELESS WOMAN ON PETER, EVEN AFTER HIS MARRIAGE TO MARY 

MARY DECIDED TO MAKE THE BEST OF HER HORRIBLE SITUATION 

THE MOTHER STOPPED DRINKING BUT IT WAS TOO LATE FOR HER HUSBAND 

THE INFANTICIDAL PARENT DEATH TRAP OF THE ‘GIFT’ OF ‘THE HOUSE’

What Peter REALLY HAD TO PAY IN RETURN FOR ‘THE HOUSE’ ON HALF THE PROPERTY

NON-STOP BOASTING  AND SLANDER WAS EMOTIONAL MURDER ON THE COUPLE 

LIFE IN “THE HOUSE” AFTER BLISS IN THE COUNTRY  

THE RISE OF A NEW CHARLES MANSON 

THE SOBER ‘FATHER’ 

MARY MADE AN EXECUTIVE DECISION 

MARY RECEIVED JESUS AND THE WHOLE SCENE CHANGED 

THE TWO BOYS WERE THE CATALYST, WHICH LED TO THEIR FULL-OUT INFANTICIDE, [emotional murder of their own children]    

THEY INTENTIONALLY ABANDONED THEIR RIGHT OF HABITATIO, PETER, HIS WIFE, AND THEIR GRANDCHILDREN

LIFE-WRECKING SLANDER SURFACED EVERYWHERE! 

BRINGING PETER AND MARY IN DISREPUTE CAUSED HAVOC EVERYWHERE 

WHY THE SATANIC SLANDER CAMPAIGN – WHAT WERE THEY DOING? 

Why did they Choose to Abandon Their Right as they Could have Gone for Compensation? 

WHAT REAL, REASONABLE PARENTS WOULD HAVE DONE 

PETER OPENED THE COTTAGE AFTER A FULL YEAR HAD PASSED 

It was God Who always Had, and Who always Will Have the Last Pronounce 

MARY’S PARENTS DIED AND ZEENA CAME TO GLOAT, AND TO SEPARATE MARY, PETER, AND THE BOYS FROM MARY’S FAMILY AS WELL

PETER NEARLY DIED AND HIS MOTHER SUDDENLY APPEARED ON THE SCENE

MARY, INNOCENTLY ON TRIAL IN FRONT OF HER ESTRANGED FAMILY

THE HOLY SPIRIT LIBERATED PETER GRADUALLY

THE COUPLE CONTINUALLY PLEADED FOR PEACE, BUT NO ONE, NOT EVEN THE UNCLE, WOULD ‘STAND IN THE MIDDLE’

THE TRAGIC OUTCOME OF THIS 25-YEAR (and counting) FEUD

THE REAL LEGACY ZEENA AND HER HUSBAND LEFT PETER AND HIS FAMILY 

HIS CONTROLLING PARENTS INSISTED ON HIS EX GIRLFRIEND

Peter was the only child of Charles and Zeena Manson, who had ‘always’ been weekend-alcoholics.  Zeena often boasted how, to dance and party with her, she made Peter drunk since he was nine years old.  She lived in mini skirts and over weekends, tight tracksuit pants and short pants, and paraded in the house in Shorty Pajamas.  She never closed the bathroom door when Peter was around.  Zeena thought she was God’s gift to all men.  She believed she was even above the rebuke of God Himself; taking the Lord’s Name in vain with every second sentence she spoke.  Charles was a has-been, featherweight boxer (125 lb/56 kg) with an attitude; a perpetual joker with a filthy mouth and an even dirtier mind. 

The parents were ‘smart’ businesspeople during the week and drunken party animals over weekends.  Yet, they claimed they were ‘perfectionists.’  Charles worshipped his expensive shiny car above all else and no one was literally allowed to lay a finger on it.  Even when Peter was a baby, sitting on Zeena’s lap, he was not allowed to touch the polished leather seats with his little feet.  Everything in their house was straight and supposedly super clean, and everything they did, were allegedly done ‘absolutely perfectly’ - including executing their evil way of life. 

It was never necessary for Zeena to work out as, in the early years, Charles was a good provider, but she looked down on women who chose to be homemakers.  When tipsy, she would boast how her boss jokingly lifted her onto his desk to ‘speak’ to her, and how she was the queen of the ball at office parties.  At first, she left Peter with his grandmother but later on she hired maids to take care of him at home.  Zeena was always too busy to notice anything — especially the fact that emotionally, Peter was a seriously neglected and maltreated little boy.  

Weirdly, Zeena never referred to her husband as Peter’s “father.”  In turn, he never referred to her as Peter’s “mother.”  Whether she spoke directly to Peter or not, she would always refer to her husband as “Charles.”  Charles would refer to her as “the old woman.”  Together, Charles and Zeena abused Peter on all levels of life, coaxing him to follow their bad example in character and lifestyle.  Charles Manson was a extremely controlling person, who focused his unreasonable anger on Peter.  He never tolerated any excuses or resistance from Peter, no matter what he commanded Peter to do.  Since Peter was a little boy, Manson did not hesitate to let his extremely filthy verbal abuse, boxer-fists, and kick-boxer feet fly into Peter’s face and young body. 

By 1971, when Peter met Mary, he was already yoked with a serious drinking problem and still firmly under his parents’ unreasonable control.  Under a guise of his happy family life, Mary got to know Peter as a tall, warmhearted man, whom she gradually began to believe, could be the one she could allow to become her lifelong friend. 

The couple met shortly after Peter broke up with his girlfriend Gwen, whose parents also partied heavily.  Charles and Zeena got along with Gwen’s parents like a house ablaze with booze.  Consequently, Charles and Zeena disliked the idea that Peter lost interest in Gwen, as their breakup interfered with their alcoholic friendship with Gwen’s parents. 

Mary was a naïve country girl.  She was of strong character and from a God-fearing, conservative home where alcohol and the Lord’s Name were never abused.  From the start, it was clear that Mary did not fit into Peter’s family.  Shrewdly, Charles and Zeena never spoke negatively about her to Peter.  As far as Peter was concerned, all was well between his new girlfriend and his parents.  However, when the cold shoulder they gave Mary could not dent the growing relationship, they made nasty, underhanded plans to get rid of her. 

Years later, Mary would hear from Peter’s aunt Bertha that, from the very beginning, Charles and Zeena slandered her name to such an extent, “The whole family and all their friends could hardly wait to meet the whore, whom Peter is dating now!” 

Mary was flabbergasted.  Tears of insult and injury clouded her eyes.  “That’s such a wicked lie Aunt Bertha!” she cried.  “God knows, my father is a strict man.  He never allowed me to stay out late or to go with just any guy…  As any normal girl, I had boyfriends before I met Peter.  My parents did not approve of one in particular and they hurt me deeply in the process of driving him away.  But I never gave myself to another man.  Truthfully, I could never give myself to a man I did not love.  Peter was my first and only, and he will always be that.” 

 

When Charles and Zeena realized Peter and Mary were falling in love, they brought Gwen to stay with them over weekends, forcing her constantly on Peter.  From the beginning, Peter told Mary about his parents’ unscrupulous control-trick to make him reconcile with Gwen, but he was still living with his parents and did not have any say in the matter.  Consequently, the couple decided to simply ignore this revolting strategy to separate them from each other.  In fact, Mary did not view Gwen as much of a threat at that stage.  Mary trusted Peter, and believed he really loved her.  As her parents guarded her social life strictly, she was content to wait for Peter to visit her over weekends and on Wednesday afternoons after work.  She looked forward to Friday nights especially, as that was their movie night.  As if she was instinctively inviting God to master this relationship, she invited Peter to church with her on Sunday evenings. 

They enjoyed life together.  In those happy early days, they could never have foreseen the saturating sorrow, which his parents would constantly inflict on their young souls and lives. 

In December 1971, Peter and Mary were engaged with their parents’ consent and blessing, oblivious to the fact that Charles and Zeena were stealthily raising hell behind their backs. 

The couple was engaged for about six months when Peter’s great aunt, who lived some 120 kilometers away, suddenly died during the week.  No one thought of notifying Mary, because Peter had to work and did not plan to attend the funeral.  As cell phones and the internet did not exist yet, and Charles Manson would not allow the “unnecessary expense” of a telephone in his house, (to have a telephone cost about R3.00 per month in those days,) Mary, and Peter too, were in the dark concerning  the appalling plan Manson and Zeena were executing behind their backs. 

That Friday, the morning of the funeral, without warning, Charles Manson commanded Peter to take the day off work to drive some people to the funeral, as Zeena had organized transport for all their stranded family and friends.  Peter protested but met with Manson’s ready response, “Remember who paid the deposit for your car.  Its mine, I can take it back anytime I want.  You just shut up and do as I say.”

Later, Peter said, he was surprised to see Gwen amongst the people Zeena carted to their home that morning.  His mother arranged to take as many as possible in her car, while Charles Manson, (stocked with a basket with glasses, cool drinks and liquor bottles,) his old drinking buddy Boet Rheeder, and Gwen piled into Peter’s car.  Manson and Rheeder took the back seat, while Gwen slid into the passenger seat next to Peter.

That day, everyone ignored Mary “because Gwen [supposedly] knew the great aunt better than Mary did.”  That day at the funeral, Peter’s family were stunned to see him with his old girlfriend again, confused as to what happened to his fiancée. 

Manson and Rheeder were drinking non-stop and eventually ran out of booze before they left the after-funeral party.  As was their pub-crawling custom, Manson commanded Peter to stop at the town’s hotel, and to pull off at every other hotel along the way for “another quickie.”   As usual, Peter participated in their drinking spree, driving as drunk as possible.  However, drinking all the way home was never enough.  When they finally arrived home late that afternoon, Peter had to go to the “shebeen” first, (Charles Manson’s illegal all-night liquor store,) to buy more booze.  Charles Manson knew the bootlegger so well he jokingly called him “Brother Mike.” 

Peter’s mother joined them happily after dropping her passengers off.  The drinking party continued until Peter had visited Brother Mike a few times and had forgotten all about Mary, if ever she entered his thoughts that day. 

 

In the meantime, earlier that Friday afternoon, a friend of Mary, Peter’s cousin Irene, came to tell her the news about the great aunt’s funeral and Gwen, who arrived and left with Peter in his car. 

During that short afternoon, even before Peter and his array could return from their pub-crawling spree, the story of the discarded Mary was already the talk of the town! 

That evening, Mary waited in vain for her fiancé to take her to a movie. 

She could not call Peter, as his parents did not have a telephone at home. 

She knew instinctively he was spending the evening with Gwen.

Her whole life fell to pieces.  

 

In reality, Peter had stepped straight into his parent’s trap.  Apparently, he never realized what they were really doing, even after their backbiting conspiracies had dealt his engagement to Mary a deathblow.  Hoodwinked by the liquor bottle and his inability to stand up to his manipulative and oppressive parents, he effectively helped them to do away with the gullible Mary. 

Peter had to work the following Saturday morning, but after work that afternoon, he cautiously parked his car in front of Mary’s home, where she waited on the steep steps, leading to the deep, cool veranda of the old farmhouse. 

He had hurt and humiliated Mary before all their watching family and friends. 

Her heart was in tatters. 

She broke the engagement and gave Peter his ring back, but he flatly refused to let her go. 

For the next twenty years, Peter would deny any involvement with Gwen that night, stating repeatedly that Charles left him no choice but to take her in his car.  He got drunk on the way home and much drunker during the evening, but he innocently went to bed by himself.  He swore he did not touch Gwen.  He swore he loved Mary not Gwen.  He chose Mary not Gwen.  He declared he wanted to spend the rest of his life with Mary not Gwen.  He begged Mary’s forgiveness, reaffirmed his love for her, and promised never to step into his parent’s snares again. 

However, in reality, Charles Manson and Zeena, who were supposed to lead Peter in a moral, honorable life, had caused him not only to break his engagement covenant with Mary, but also to lie to her, deceive her, and betray her without allowing her the dignity to make an enlightened choice about their future together.  This scarred their young lives indelibly and opened doors for massive demonic infestation on this once loving, innocent relationship. 

ABUSE AND INTERFERENCE PUSHED THE COUPLE INTO MARRIAGE

That Saturday afternoon, the couple decided to be married as soon as possible, set up their own home, and forget about Gwen and the humiliating event at his great-aunt’s funeral.  They consulted with Mary’s parents and set the wedding date for September 1972.  Young and inexperienced in dealing with such devastating abuse and satanic strategies, the couple felt they had no choice but to ignore the destructive incident and get on with their life together. 

The next day, Sunday afternoon, they went to notify Peter’s parents of their wedding plans. The parents had visitors;  another of their drinking partners - one of Manson’s sisters, Hannah, and her cheerful husband “Old” Dappy. 

Surprisingly, it was Aunty Hannah who broke the hostile silence after Peter’s announcement. 

“Come on, Zeena,” the woman said sternly, “stop your nonsense.  You know what it’s like to be not wanted!” 

Peter ignored that strange rebuke as all the other obscure things that happened so ‘co-incidentally’ between them and his parents.  Mary was too dumbfounded to say anything.  She never realized she would be “not wanted” without legitimate cause! 

However, what did become clear as time went by, was that Zeena did “know [exactly] what it was like to be not wanted” by her husband’s parents - and for very good reason!  

Before Zeena married Charles, she was the girlfriend of his baby brother.  Apparently, Zeena played the brothers against one another until she finally dumped the younger one to marry Charles. 

Charles had a disturbing birthmark in his face and never wanted children.  Nevertheless, not long afterward, Peter was born healthy and unscarred.  Something about Peter’s birth was kept a closely guarded secret for nearly sixty years, as Zeena and Charles, as all slanderers, permanently focused on everyone else’s past while burying their own dirty secrets.  Nevertheless, at the time, great turmoil rampaged through the family concerning the birth of Peter. 

Long afterward, what Aunty Hannah said to Zeena that day when Peter announced their wedding plans, began to make sense to the couple.  Peter’s aunt was actually saying Charles’ parents could not stand the sight of Zeena for all she had done to their family. 

That Sunday afternoon, however, Charles Manson and Zeena kept their cool and did not utter a negative word to Peter and Mary about the wedding. 

Three months later, the couple got married in a beautiful church ceremony with his parents’ explicit consent.  Nevertheless, during the wedding rehearsal the week before, Zeena said under her breath so that Mary, but not Peter, could hear, “I give them six months, and he’ll be home again!”  

When the ceremony was over and Peter and Mary had to sign the register in the church rectory, a profound sadness engulfed Mary. 

She could not stop crying until they met the cheerful guests outside the church in a rainbow of colored confetti. 

 

Once the couple had moved into their own house after the wedding, the parents trashed a highway to their door, visiting at any hour and up to five times a day over weekends.  The fact that the couple had found a place some distance away in the country close to Mary’s parents, did not deter the Manson’s overbearing visits. 

One Sunday morning, Charles and Zeena ‘caught’ Peter and his wife sleeping late.   Charles, drunk by nine in the morning, nearly blew his top, screaming how “lazy, useless, senseless” and whatever else low down and dirty “the two of them are!”  Without mincing words, he accused Peter of being “c**t struck,” (a foul swearword for a prostitute’s vagina!) 

This was not the first or the last time this very malicious man and his hypocritical wife would try to turn Peter’s innocent wife into something inhumane and detestable.  Peter and Mary did not realize it at the time, but Charles, with the ‘passive’ support of his wife, was actually shouting that Mary is a whore.  Nevertheless, as if bewitched by the constant abuse of his parents, both Peter and Mary tolerated this, and countless other assaults on their characters, marriage, intelligence, privacy, and life in general.  These tongue and emotional murderers were continually committing crimen injuria or character murder on them, but through misconceived tolerance, neither realized what the parents were doing. 

As usual, that morning, it seemed that Zeena had either no say in the matter, or that Charles’ beastly rampage did not concern her in the least.  In reality, however, her silence proved she supported Charles wholeheartedly.  As all so-called ‘passive’ abusers, she was executing her evil in secret.  She was instigating Charles on the sly; nagging and pushing him into fits of rage by complaining unceasingly; focusing on trivial matters tirelessly, and twisting important facts. 

Even more horrendously, typically, Peter also failed to protect himself and his bride against Charles’ onslaught. 

Maybe Peter and Mary too, simply accepted that Charles and Zeena were two foul-minded and foul-mouthed individuals, and erroneously believed they could do nothing to change all that.  They had taught Peter to talk disgustingly too, and this escalated when he got drunk over weekends.  In the beginning, Mary joined in some of their swearwords but as time went by, she began to detest their verbal and other filth, and their pollution of her and Peter’s life. 

 

Shortly after they were married and still furnishing their home, Peter got a bargain from someone at work.  He could buy a working fridge and washing machine for only R45.00!  This sounds like a toddler’s pocket money today, but 43 years ago, as an engineering apprentice, Peter was a hardworking man, but he scarcely owned that amount per week with overtime.  Nevertheless, he believed this was a bargain and unwisely, he borrowed the money from Peter’s parents.  A few days later, during one of his usual arguments with Peter, Charles Manson commanded Zeena in the middle of the night to drive all the way to the couple’s home to fetch his R45.00 – and to bring back his gas lamp, which Peter had borrowed from him. 

Zeena waited unwaveringly in the doorway until Peter, extremely embarrassed, had gone to wake Mary’s parents to borrow the money from them.  Peter and Mary were not in the habit of borrowing money or anything else, but after this humiliating episode, they steered clear of financial transactions with Peter’s parents. 

THEY CONTINUED TO FORCE THE SHAMELESS WOMAN ON PETER, EVEN AFTER HIS MARRIAGE TO MARY

Charles and Zeena always brought their liquor with them when they came to visit, urging Peter to get drunk with them.  Mary moaned, but Peter and his parents simply ignored her protests. 

Once, Zeena actually had the audacity to tell Mary to her face, “Shut up you sewn-on rag; you do not buy the booze!”

Forcing the shameless woman endlessly on Peter, the parents soon began to invite Gwen on their visits to Peter and Mary’s

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