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Psychopath Freaks that Deceive to Control us


Renette Vermeulen



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Please note 

The study of human behavior, as also found in psychology but not so much in psychiatry, is the crux of this article; confirmed and guided by the never-changing, Scriptural Word of the Lord Jesus Christ.  Nevertheless, as many psychologists also use psychiatry in their “talk therapy,” one must be careful to “test and prove everything to see if it is from God,” (1 Ths. 5:21-22.)  Additionally, where the word “victim” is used, it does not mean a “victim mentality that merely seeks sympathy” or anything similar.  It factually refers to the true “injured parties,” “fatalities,” or “casualties” of barnyard bullies, narcissists, psychopaths, and other sadists. 



Revised Facebook Post, 21 June 2019 

Someone said, “Some people control for deceptive purposes while they say they don’t.” 

Of course they do, and they will deny it because who wants to be called a “control freak?”  Besides, sin that is done in secret is so much sweeter as it gives sadistic control freaks so much more room to manoeuvre while they enjoy every moment of watching other people squirm under their deceptive control.  Sinful control freaks, as other people with “personality disorders,” are actually covert or secret sadists. 

“Control” means, “dominate, force, rule, manipulate, oppress, dictate, keep back [from personal decisions,] restrain.”  People are controlled by evildoers such as narcissists, (a “personality disorder” where people go to all extremes to magnify themselves through the sinful control and destruction of others,) because they are often physically stronger, more informed, skilled in deception and underhandedness, or of higher intelligence.  Psychopaths are also evil geniuses that often hide behind the guise of decency, stupidity, and humility, just like secret or covert narcissists do.  Because these ‘personality types’ also hide behind innocence, goodness, meekness, ‘passive’ (aggressive) behavior, and all other kinds of demonic secrecy, they are in a perfect position to manipulate and control their unsuspecting victims to misread their constant abuse and many secret agendas as “love and care.” 

The goal of deception, (dishonesty, confusion, trickery, fraud, cheating,) is to blind us so we cannot know and understand what controllers are actually doing to us.  To various degrees, all control freaks are consuming psychopaths who lack moral conscience to shamelessly devour the human spirits, souls (minds,) emotions, bodies, lives, time, families, and finances of others, (1 Ths. 5:23.)  Nothing and no one can ever satisfy them or be enough for them.  All spiritual, emotional, family, cultural, and economic life must always revolve around them — although they can also pretend to be quiet and humble while executing their grandiosity in secret.  As they lack moral conscience, they have no sympathy for their victims - except the pretence of empathy to deceive, control, and consume even further. 

¨ Life is dappled with deceptive controllers.  Politicians deceive us to vote for them so they can enrich themselves and remain in control.  Church clergy deceive believers with false doctrines, false authority, and false church norms and forms to control their time, money, and spiritual, emotional, and physical lives to for the same reasons.  Spouses, parents, and other psychopaths can deceive people to mistake their false power and abusive control for ‘love’ and ‘care,’ while they craftily install the fear of rejection into them, and utilize physical and emotional punishment to trauma bond or psychologically addict them to their abuse. 

¨ Just as violent control through abusive parents and spouses, cunning over-protecting, over-bearing, ‘over-supplying’ and ‘over-pacifying’ or “babying” parents can make their children into selfish, passive-aggressive adults, who struggle to function Godly in society and in their families, and simply cannot deny their own, covert lust for deceptive control.  It is almost ‘natural’ that, either openly or secretly, such controlled people turn into consumer-controllers themselves.  Abusive spouses too, often pretend ornate ‘care’ and ‘concern’ for their spouses to control them through the same type of emotional dependency and lack of self-worth, so that they can continue unhindered in sins such as gambling, alcohol and drug abuse, adultery, fornication, violence, and so on.  The list of controllers and their methods of control just goes on and on. 

Sinful humanity is “exercised” in deception and control, because those who deceive people to submit to their false power and authority, actually think “for” them to direct and engulf their entire lives. (Proverbs 23:7, “For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”) Hence, we see great numbers of people, Jesus’ believers included, who suffer from ‘unworthiness,’ and are spiritually, emotionally, and even physically dependent upon their controlling ‘spiritual’ leaders.  That is why, by enslaving us to their deceptive control, controllers such as parents, spouses, politicians, and church clergy form our cultures, characters, self-worth, aspirations, theologies, ideologies, etcetera.  (Romans 6:16, “To whom you present yourselves slaves to obey, you are that one’s slaves, whether of sin leading to death, or to obedience [to God] leading to righteousness.”) 


On the other hand, Godly love or agape will always teach us to think for ourselves, test everything to see if it is from God, live “circumspectly” and “soberly,” and thus, to take responsibility for our own decisions and lives.  Satan is the tyrant that drives humanity with his whip; Jesus Is the Life-Giving God Who leads His disciples with His staff or Word and Spirit, (Jn. 10:10.)

¨ People submit to deception and control because ‘causing trouble’ and ‘disrespect’ by “withstanding” and “confronting” deception and control, (which are Scriptural commandments,) is the difficult way that does not make resisters popular, (Mt. 18:10-15; Jam. 4:7.)  Yet, Jesus said the following about so-called ‘passivity,’ “The servant who knew his master’s will… and did not do it, shall be beaten with many stripes… To him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin,” (Lu. 12:47-48; Jam. 4:17.) 

¨ So, those who withstand deceptive control are often labelled as controllers because they refuse to submit to real control freaks, who always turn themselves into ‘victims’ when they cannot get their way with them. 

¨ We cannot and do not control others by saying “no” to their deceptive control.  Neither do we resist control freaks to control them, but if possible, to show them their sin with the motive of restoring them to God and to us, (Rom. 12:18.) 

We must obey God Who commanded us to confront, expose, and flee from unrepentant abuse to benefit our own souls, (minds,) lives, finances, relationships, and especially our eternal lives - and of course, to warn and protect other people who can fall victim to control freaks, (Mt. 18:15-20; Eph. 5:11-13.) 

¨ Because Jesus has given us all a free will and expects us to use it, if we do not withstand deceptive control, (especially in our relationships with church clergy, parents, spouses, adult children, job situations, etcetera,) they will enslave us to their dictates and we will live a life of loss, embarrassment, and aggravation.  Even worse, constant sinful control will eventually deplete us of Godly self-control and personal decision making.  


What must we do to recognize, repent from, and escape deceptive control? 

As in all difficult situations, we must first seek and obey Jesus and take personal responsibility for our lives.  We begin by prayerfully making God and the Truth of His Word our highest priority with every step we take, (Prov. 9:10.)  Either we subject our thoughts, and thus our “minds” to Almighty God The Holy Spirit and His Scriptural leading, or we choose to believe the lies of controllers, and deceive ourselves to think that we are in ‘control’ of ourselves and our lives while they lead us into deception and other sin. 

When we bow to control freaks who subject us to their will by sinfully thinking “for” us, we are, in reality, bowing to the dictates of Satan.  And we know that the devil “does not come [to us] except to steal, murder, and destroy,” (Jn. 10:10.) 

¨ God’s holy “control” is His Godly sovereignty over us through our Scriptural obedience, which leads to redemption, salvation, blessing, and emotional growth in Christ, (Jn. 16:8-16; Gal. 3:10-14; Rom. 12:1-3.) So, God’s holy “control” is absolutely necessary for our well-being as a whole and it spells Godly agape or “love and care” on a multilevel.  Psalm 72:18 declared, “God only does wondrous things!”  So, if we think God did bad things to us, we should think again.  1 John 1:5 declares, “God Is Light, [He does not merely ‘shine’ light,] and in Him there is no darkness at all.”  Romans 8:28, “[But] we know that for those who love [or actively obey and follow] God, all things work together for good…” 

Þ We must also realize that the Scriptures are all about God-reliant self-control.  God never gave us a mandate to change or control other people.  God only gave us the right and power to change ourselves, (Jn. 1:12-13.)  We must obey the Scriptures to try and reach the lost, but God allows us to make our own decisions because He gave us all the great gift of personal choice or free will, (Jn. 1:12-13.)  I say it again: God does not take hostages to heaven.  He calls, and we either follow Him willingly or choose to zombielike stumble to hell.  Someone wisely said, “God changes your circumstances by changing you.”  This means, we are not in control of our circumstances and other people, and God always requires us to work “with” Him in obedience to His Word to change us, (Rom. 12:1-2.) 

Thus, we cannot expect God to forcibly submit other people to His will because He is not a tyrant.  God, in His own time, will deal with every unrepentant person, and He has a millions ways to protect us from harm if we submit to His will for us in every situation — and, eventually, to change it all into good for us in ways we cannot perceive now, (Rom. 8:28.) 


Here is what God has empowered us to do to change ourselves in the power of the Holy Spirit. 

Proverbs 16:32, “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he who rules his [own] spirit [by submitting to God under all circumstances,] than he that takes a city.”  Romans 12:1-2, “Present your bodies as living sacrifices… to God… And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, [your thoughts and beliefs,] to know [and do] the… will of God…” 1 Cor. 9:27, “Discipline your [thoughts to keep your minds sound] and bring [them] into subjection [to Scriptural truth…]” 


How do we do anything “in the power of the Holy Spirit?” 

We pray according to God’s revealed will, (the truth of His Word,) and then completely reliant on Him, follow through as the Spirit reminds us or teaches us obedience to His Word, (Jn. 14:26, “The Holy Spirit will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all things that I [Jesus] said to you.”)  

E.g., we can pray as follows, “Father in heaven, please open the eyes of my abuser so that he or she can understand exactly what they are doing and be saved from this sin.”  (John 16:8-14, ‘The Holy Spirit came to convict the [whole] world of sin, righteousness [in Christ] and judgement [through wilful disobedience.]’)  Hence, every single person “knows” that he or she is in sin, although this is not a guarantee that the person will obey the Spirit and repent. 

“And protect me while giving me the wisdom to deal with this situation according to Your will to glorify Your Name.” (James 1:5, ‘If any lacks wisdom let him ask of God… and it shall be given him.”  John 16:14, “...The Holy Spirit will glorify Jesus…” 

Then, we must follow through on Jesus’ disciplinary process as far as possible.  Matthew 18:15-20, “If [someone] sins against you [seriously and unrepentantly] go tell him his fault between you and him alone…  If he does not repent, bring one or two witnesses…”)  


All these commandments call for actively and constantly resisting deceptive control, which can bring persecution upon us because we choose to live Godly, (1 Tim. 3:12.)  So, our outward circumstances might never change due to the responses of other people to the conviction of the Holy Spirit, while we must still continually withstand all evil so that God can change us “from glory to glory,” (2 Cor. 3:18.)  Similarly, God will not do anything for us, which He had commanded us to do.  We must diligently and boldly do our part, while in decided faith, leave what only God can do in His most capable Hands

2 Tim. 1:7, “For God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power, [Godly] love, and of a sound mind.” In this passage, Paul possibly “admonished Timothy as he was prone to timidity [fear] and may have been reluctant to accept greater responsibilities, [fearing adversity for actively resisting deception and control.]”  [S.F. Bible footnote, 1991.] 

May God give us the grace to withstand those who try to control our minds, our lives on earth, and even our eternal lives.  We are committing idolatry if we allow people to oppress us to sin, or lead us into sin.  Jesus commanded us to “have no other gods before Him,” (Ex. 20:3.)  So, by God’s grace, let us stick to obedience to His Scriptural directives as far as possible, always worshipping at His feet. 


In conclusion, a word of caution.  We all consciously or unconsciously compare our lives to those whom we respect, as they often model what we expect from Godly people.  Looking at our own lives, which are often broken, disrupted, and anything but perfect, we might feel inferior when we see believers that are so seemingly “in control.”  This is when we must remember Jesus’ own life here on earth and all the terrible adversity and affliction Jesus and His disciples suffered, because they refused the religious control of the status quo. 

¨ Especially among those who remain stuck in the church system, most dangerous, psychopathic controllers hardly ever suffer persecution or other hardship.  This is so because they cling to extremely false doctrines and religious norms and forms, so that Satan is quite satisfied with them.  In contrast, 2 Timothy 3:12 says, “Those who desire to live Godly will be persecuted.”  Therefore, those religionists “look” so peaceful, “in control” and prosperous, and “sound” so joyful, etcetera, while, as Jesus warned, they are inwardly “graves filled with [stinking] bones,” (Mt. 23:27.) 

¨ It is wrong to think that all evil people are erratic, blabbering fools.  The most dangerous deceptive controllers are seemingly always “in control” and “at peace” with themselves in their sinful state without God and the Truth of His Word.  The rhetorical question is, “How can they really be at peace with God through disobedience to His Word and Spirit?” 

Well, living in the spiritual Kingdom of God does not place us in perfect control of our lives, situations, and other people.  It is difficult for oppressed, persecuted, suffering believers to continually remain “at peace with themselves,” others, and their situations.  E.g., it is easy for false preachers, who are polished to perfection by deception, and who are, therefore, never confronted with their deception because they preach popular sermons, to “look” self-composed, holy, and serene.   

¨ But this is how the unassuming Paul preached among the believers in their assemblies, the ‘ecclesia.’  He explained in 1 Corinthians 2:3-12, “[As I decided to preach only God’s entire truth,] I was with you in [physical] weakness, [natural human] fear, and much trembling, and my speech and preaching were not with persuasive words [as those who skilfully preach false sermons,] but in the [inward] demonstration of the Spirit and of [His true] power...” 

The Holy Spirit of the Scriptures always focuses the attention on Jesus and His Word, and not on the instrument who brings the Word — or who, often unknowingly, manifests the powerful gifts of the Holy Spirit, (Mark 16:15-18.) 

Paul and the other apostles also had to “grow” in wisdom throughout their lives by “testing everything to see if it is from God [and to] abstain from all evil.”  They also had to prayerfully seek God’s face for the truth of His Word with the motive of obeying Him in the leading of His Holy Spirit, (1 Ths. 5:21-22; 1 Jn. 4:1-14.)  They were not ‘christs and gods’ as the churches would like to portray them, (Mt. 24:21-28.) Jesus’ true apostles were mere men, chosen by Jesus Himself to preach His Truth, (Acts 14:15 KJV.)  This principle of God is still the guideline for all those who were really called by Him to minister as His willing, obedient servants; humbly washing the feet of His blood-redeemed body of believers with the Truth of His Word in real Holy-Spirit power, (1 Jn. 2:20.) 

Jesus’ full atonement in our place made us spiritually perfect in God’s sight at the moment we sincerely and fully accepted Him as or Lord, God, Redeemer, and Savior, (Col. 2:9-10.) But soulically or emotionally and humanly, we all need to be continually “transformed in our minds [or thoughts,] to know [and obey] that… perfect will of God,” (Rom. 12:1-2.)  Someone wisely said, “We must learn throughout or whole lives...  [because we are all in the School of the Holy Spirit.]  Hey, we will even learn how to die when that moment comes, as we have never died before…” 

¨ The psalmist commanded in Psalm 115:1-3, “Not unto us, O Lord, not unto us, but to Your Name give glory, because of Your mercy, because of Your Truth.  Why should the Gentiles say, ‘So where is their God?’  Our God is in heaven; [He has made the heavens, the earth, the sea, and everything in it.] So, He [reigns sovereignly] and does whatever He pleases… [He commanded us to be humble, and He really means it.]” 

Our salvation in the Lord Jesus Christ brings us “out of [all sinful] darkness into His marvelous Light to proclaim His praises… as His [humble, spiritual kings and priests.]” (1 Pt. 2:9-10.)  So, the sole purpose of our lives on earth is to worship and serve Jesus, our Father in heaven, above everything and everyone else and with all we are. 

¨ “God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship Him in spirit and in truth,” (Jn. 4:21-24.)  There is no sinful control of other people in the spiritual Kingdom of the Lord Jesus Christ.  Jesus called us all to give every willing person His liberating, saving truth, which is the opposite of satanic control, (Mt. 28:19-20.) 

If we truly stand on His Word and in obedience to the leading of His Holy Spirit, we will become like Paul who explained in Galatians 2:20, “I have been crucified with Christ [and died to my self-righteous attempts to be saved through the law and thus have control over people.]  It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me.  And the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, Who loved me and gave Himself for me.  I do not set aside the grace of God.  For if righteousness comes through [my efforts to keep the law and control people,] then Christ died in vain [for me.]” 


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