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THE STRUGGLES OF PEOPLE WHO WERE SEXUALLY ABUSED ARE MULTIFOLD  

Renette Vermeulen

 

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The study of human behavior, as also found in psychology but not so much in psychiatry, is the crux of this article; confirmed and guided by the never-changing, Scriptural Word of the Lord Jesus Christ.  Nevertheless, as many psychologists also use psychiatry in their “talk therapy,” one must be careful to “test and prove everything to see if it is from God,” (1 Ths. 5:21-22.)  Additionally, where the word “victim” is used, it does not mean a “victim mentality that merely seeks sympathy” or anything similar.  It factually refers to the true “injured parties,” “fatalities,” or “casualties” of barnyard bullies, narcissists, psychopaths, and other sadists. 

 

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All the other issues such as anger and “low esteem” aside, those who were sexually abused are tormented by any or a combination of the problems discussed in this article. According to the type, extent, severity, and the length of the abuse, and whether rape, child molestation, homosexuality, incest, bestiality, and other unnatural intercourse were involved or not, they can be harassed by demons of lust and perversion that also pester them after they come to Christ.  The following also cause great problems for people.  Sex with demons, including the incubus or male, and so-called succubus or female spirits — (Gen. 6:1-6.)  Sex with blood family and extended family, (King Herod beheaded John the Baptist because he warned that it is incest to have sexual relations with your brother’s wife, Lev. 18:16; Mark 6:17-29.)  Oral and anal sex even in marriage, watching and participating in pornography, or anything else that pervert God’s creation principles. 

Although the 2nd century AD (After Christ) Jewish Talmud, (mostly referring to Cabalists, etcetera,) and the 15 century AD writings of the Jewish Maimonides state that “married couples” can engage in any form of sexual activity, the Torah or our Old Testament that was written Before Christ, as well as our New Testament, never suggest any such unholy thing.  Holiness is God’s commandment throughout the Bible in all human activities because our Creator is Holy.  He meticulously created every part and organ of our bodies for a specific purpose; the very obvious attributes of male and female in particular.  So, human procreation must clearly be according to the way God created humanity in this regard; especially as the human body was created in the “image of God,” and governed by God’s holy marriage covenant between one husband and one wife, (Gen. 2:20-25.) 

What’s more, in the New Testament, after the cross and Pentecost, the bodies of true believers symbolise Jesus’ holy bride and form the holy “temple of the Holy Spirit,” (1 Cor. 6:15-20.)  Although some pagan cultures condemn unnatural sex as taboo, most have no inhibitions about immorality.  This is clearly where the Jewish Maimonides and Cabalalists, and even Christians found their lack of sexual and other forms of morality.  As the Bible views both male and female fornicators and adulterers are prostitutes or harlots, Jude verses 6-7 slam all unnatural sexual activity as “going after strange flesh,” like the fallen angels did in the days of Noah. “They are reserved in everlasting chains… for Judgment DayIn similar manner to these [as mentioned above,] having given themselves over to sexual immorality… are set forth as an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.” So, true believers must resist all these practices as sin, as all forms of fornication or sexual filth originated from the devil. 

 

Moreover, violence always accompanies these crimes.  The modern trend to watch and practice pornography is more serious than most people think.  The narcissist-psychopath serial killer Ted Bundy said, “All the violent offenders I met in prison, just like me, without question or exception, every one of them was deeply involved, influenced, addicted, and consumed by pornography…”  Where there is violence in a home, we can be sure that there is fornication, (unmarried sex and  other immoral sexual behavior as described above,) and adultery, (sex between a married person and somebody other than his or her spouse, which instantly breaks the holy marriage covenant between one husband and his one wife, (Mt. 19:1-9.)  God rebuked the fornicating, adulterating priesthood of Old Israel as follows in Malachi 2:13-16, I am witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously, [by divorcing your good wives to take pagan women, who mostly do not have qualms about fornication that people now watch as pornography, Mal. 2:11.]  Yet, she is your companion and wife by covenant… [And I hate your fornication and adultery,] as it covers your garments with violence…”   God was speaking about their priestly attire, which symbolizes their holy position and high character and morals in Him.  As sexual crimes desecrate the body as God’s creation, Satan’s destruction through violence follows

 

Nothing has changed through the millennia.  In “Religion and sexuality,” [‘Codes & Conspiracies,’ Discovery World, 28.4.2015,] it was said, “In the Greek temple of Corinth, the Greek temple goddess Aphrodite, [actually old Semiramis of Babylon, goddess of sex and fertility, which is venerated by Roman Catholics on St. Valentine’s Day,] once employed 1,000 servants to perform sex as a ritual to her as the “goddess of love.” [These were acts of ‘holy communion’ through these pagan ‘nuns’ that were united with their gods and goddesses through ‘sacred marriage;’ providing a ‘spiritual link’ between men and women and these demons through their so-called ‘sacred’ sex rituals.  These sex rituals, in essence, were and still are acts of demonic worship.  To honor these demons, these prostitutes also held grandiose sex orgies, acting as ‘mediators’ between their temple attendees and fertility gods and goddesses.]  These were the sacred whores of the temples and elsewhere, [‘married sacredly’ to their gods and goddesses of sex and fertility.]  They also provided [paid] sex in tavernlike dwellings…”  By the middle ages, the connection between religion and temple harlots reached all the way to the Vatican…  [who said,] “If prostitution were to be done away with, the whole world would be overcome by lust.”  So, church-ran brothels were set up to “dissway men from turning to homosexuality,” and emerged all over Europe, disguised as “places for moral improvement!” 

 

No wonder sexual crimes are viewed by billions as the norm for humanity.  Either desecrating their own bodies or being interrupted by sexual predators, sexually abused people can become hypersexual fornicators and adulterers or freeze in marital relationships; be afraid to start a family of their own; become violent, ‘passive’ aggressive, and addicted to adultery, pornography, and other fornication such as adultery; turn into sexual predators themselves, and even embrace homosexualism, lesbianism, and bestiality

I did this article because many people consult me on these problems. There is hardly a family that was not tainted by this evil, but by God’s grace I am one of the few fortunate ones who escaped such vandalism of the human body and mind, which must be a temple of the Holy Spirit, (1 Cor. 6:15-20.)  So, this article is for those who deeply desire to be free from the consequences of sexual bondage

The marriage covenant between a husband and his wife is the only holy ‘intimate’ relationship that can exist in God, which must centre on agape or Godly “love in deed and truth.”  Thus, not even in marriage can intimacy exist without Godly love — which goes beyond feeling and natural lust, which God ingrained into every living thing to procreate.  Sadly, many people promptly confess that they never really loved even their good spouses.  Having no sexual inhibitions, they married for fornication and convenience, not for love, companionship, and holy intimacy.  Confusing Godly “love” with shallow, worldly feelings and sinful, unnatural lust such as seen in this article, usually adds to the turmoil of many sexually abused people. Some simply embrace immorality, (making themselves into fornicators and adulterers,) while others remain emotionally torn between the dirt of sexual sin such as rape and child molestation, and the holiness of marriage. 

Sexual filth is seated in unholy submission, and ‘naturally’ viewed as dirty, because it goes directly against the Moral Law, which God ‘has written on every heart and mind,’ (Heb. 8:10.)  As this is ingrained in humanity, many sexually abused people feel unworthy of God and a good spouse’s love, and guilty because they are not satisfied with the holiness of the marriage relationship.  Mostly, if not always, the sanctity of marriage can never be enough for them and the constant pull of dark forces push them to continuously seek reckless sensation outside of marriage.  (Recklessness is a major component of harlotry and it’s companion violence, and the direct opposite of Godliness!) 

 

What about the person that is sexually fridget with their good marriage partners because they ‘must’ get ‘highs’ from watching and practising pornography?  Watching pornography is extremely addictive and instantly brings emotional adultery into the marriage covenant, as Jesus warned in Matthew 5:27-30.  Such behavior openly invites physical adultery with prostitutes, who are obsessed with sexual filth.  Once believers are into sexual deviations, demons get hold of their “minds” or thoughts, and they will really struggle to get free again.  The more they succumb to the demons that lord over sexual filth, the worse their problems will become, as fornicators and adulterers sin against the temple of the Holy Spirit, Who should live in their bodies, minds or “souls,” and born again human spirits

Paul issued this staunch warning in 1 Corinthians 6:9-15, “Do not be deceived, the unrighteous will not inherit the Kingdom of God, [which must be within them, Lu. 17:21 KJV, as] neither fornicators, idolaters, [sexual sin is pure idolatry; worshipping the creature not the Creator,] adulterers, homosexuals, etcetera… [will enter into heaven.]”  This is so because fornicators and adulterers instantly “destroy the [holiness of the] temple of the Spirit,” (1 Cor. 3:16-17,) as “those who are joined to harlots are one body with them… [as well as] one spirit with them…”  Sexual sin is Spirit Transfer at it’s worst.  Sexual immoral people lock themselves in a vile prison where strong demons are their wardens, (1 Cor. 6:15-20.) 

In reality, being married or otherwise and watching pornography to imitate those perverted acts, is another classic example of the sinful lust, which Jesus forbade as adultery in Matthew 5:27-30, and which must also be avoided by not “looking,” “staring,” or “searching” for it by peeking at potential sex partners.  (I call this Playing Meerkat.)  Thus, Paul also commanded in 1 Cor. 6:18, “Flee sexual immorality…”  And in 1 Cor. 5:9, “Do not keep company with sexually immoral people…” 

 

People, who struggle with lust in any of its many forms, were always sexually abused as children or later in life.  Most were trauma-bonded or addicted to their abusers and the filth they brought upon them.  So-called ‘deliverance’ sessions and church membership will not bring redemption from messing with Satan like that.  The only way to be “delivered” from all addiction is through sincere confession and true repentance.  Those who seek “deliverance” cannot go to someone else to take control of their lives like so-called ‘deliverers’ or exorcists claim they can do.  Let us get to the Only Answer: Jesus and the Truth of His Word. He promised that the Truth [of Scripture and all troubling situations, in combination with the manifest power of the Holy Spirit of the Bible] will set us free.  Yes, we must and can pray together and support one another with the gifts and knowledge God had entrusted to us.  But only our own firm decisions, obedience to Scripture, and commitment to Jesus, will bring us to freedom from addictions.  Jesus said, “If you are truly My disciples you will continue in My Word.  And you will know the Truth, and [obedience to] the Truth will set your free,” (Jn. 8:31-32.) 

However, for those who choose to remain in darkness, there is no help.  Behavioral changes through psychiatry will profit them nothing.  Addiction to and the effects of sin stem from the spirit world.  So, the only redemption from such problems can come through utter submission to the God of the Bile and obedience to His Truth.  Paul declared in 2 Cor. 3:17, KJV, “The Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord Is, there is freedom.” 

 

As a result, all those addicted to pornography and other sexual filth, must begin by first sincerely confessing to God and their spouses all their fornication and adultery by name, (not to a friend, priest, or so-called ‘pastor,’ but in obedience to James 5:16.)  They must also realize that such behavior is extremely selfish, as the mostly unspoken struggles of innocent spouses are hardly ever mentioned.  Frigidity and dirty sexual behavior are dreadful forms of abuse against good spouses. 

¨ Jesus then prescribed the simple cure for addiction to fornication and adultery by commanding that we must all drastically mutilate ourselves emotionally and remove ourselves physically from everyone and everything that entice us to sin, (Mt. 5:27-30.)  Then, absolute and lasting repentance will bring complete redemption, (Jam. 4:7-8.) 

Deeply torn and addicted people must work on their Scriptural relationship with God above all, simultaneously building their relationship with their good spouses and other people that can uplift them. As they practice obedience to Jesus by surrendering themselves totally to Him and their sincere spouses, He will heal their emotions and lives by the punishment He had endured in their place, (Eph. 5:21-32; Isa. 53:3-5.)  It might be instantly or a long process, but God is faithful and  He will never forsake His sincere, blood-bought disciples, (Heb. 5:8: Isa. 43:1-3.) 

I seriously encourage all blood-cleansed believers who are battling against the assaults and lies of the enemy, which only intend to rob them of their freedom, peace, and blessing in Jesus, to confront their abusers and work through all these issues as far as possible if they have not done so already, (Mt. 18:15-20.)  After that, they must stand firm in their freedom while obeying God Who declared in Isaiah 1:18, “[Flee from all these things as far as possible, and from all the people that have harmed, provoked, and tempted you, Eph. 5:11; 2 Cor. 10:3-5.]  Come now, and let us reason together. [Tell Me exactly how you feel and what ails you.  Then understand the following.] Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow. Though they are red like crimson, they shall be as wool. If you are willing to obey [My Moral Law,] you shall eat the good of the land…  If you [sincerely] confess our sins, I will be faithful and just to forgive you your sins and to cleanse you from ALL unrighteousness…  For in Christ, you have [present tense] redemption [full deliverance] through His blood [which is] the forgiveness of sins according to His grace,” (Mt. 18:15-20; 1 Jn. 1:7-10; Jn. 13:34; Eph. 1:7.) 

Dearly beloved, take these promises from the Most High God Himself and stand in the will and power of the Lord Jesus Christ to get what you probably never had. God said it, and we must all believe it and make it ours. If we confess and repent from our sins, but keep on confessing the same sins over and over again because the devil lies to us to make us feel guilty and unworthy after we have repented from our sin, technically, God “doesn’t know” what we are talking about.  He has already scrubbed us utterly clean in the blood of Jesus!  So, who can bring a charge against His Holy-Spirit filled body of Christ and His holy temple? (Rom. 8:1-11.) 

Thus, no matter what happened in the past, all abused people must decidedly and in complete dependency upon the Holy Spirit, move forward in Christ.  Do not despise little advances and do not be discouraged by failures

Should you fall, get right up and flee back to the feet of Jesus, (Jn. 6:37; 1 Jn. 1:8-10; Jam. 3:2.) 

Never shy away from Jesus and throw your blessings in the fire, but cherish everyone and everything He had entrusted to you. True, Godly “love” or agape can only flourish in giving of ourselves, but do not surrender yourself to the dictates and control of abusers, (Mt. 7:6 KJV.)  Do not allow anyone to steal your peace in the Lord Jesus Christ.  Surely, you are not living in that dirt anymore.  So, do not invite new dirt into your life.  Terrible as it was, it is over now; gone forever. You are safe under the full protection of Jesus as long as you remain at His feet. 

 

So, all those who shy away from intimacy, either emotionally or sexually, with their good wives and husbands, must make a choice to constantly work on their agape “love” for God and other people.  Decide never to push your good spouses away.  Take control of your life by prayerfully studying the Bible from the New Testament perspective.  Fall at the feet of Jesus in every trial and temptation and refuse to give in to the sins that pressured you to remain in darkness.  Concentrate on God’s indescribable love for you.  Turn your marriage into a continuous romance as far as possible. Dress up for your spouse; do candlelight dinners, do interesting things together, etcetera, and cultivate your friendship and love for each other. All the while, decidedly surrender yourself emotionally to your good spouse in Godly love - and the intimacy in marriage will naturally follow as you fall in love with each other again.  

Stop the destruction of the enemy by submitting to his plan to let you implode upon yourself by constantly focussing on what you have lost and suffered.  Ask our Father in heaven to turn everything bad into good — and to let this be a testimony that we sincerely belong to the Living God! 

Choose to live beyond the isolating borders that abusers have set up around you.  Make time for your loving family, faithful friends, the members of the body of Christ, and be kind to strangers where possible.  Our planet is filled with lonely people. Prayerfully reach out to the lost, orphans, widows, and the elderly, by being available to them as God opens doors for you.  Ask the Holy Spirit to bring you to those who need Him, and whose needs you will understand. Visit those in hospital if God calls you to do that. Join the volunteers that help at an animal shelter if you have a heart for God’s abused creatures.  Start a hobby that will compliment your life in Christ.  Tend your home and garden if you have a garden.  Work at it prayerfully and ask the Holy Spirit to lead you through it all. Normality in your relationships will follow a Godly lifestyle in Christ to bless yourself and other people.

Jesus is the God of Agape ‘Love’ Who declared in Ps. 72:12-19, “He will deliver the needy when he cries. The poor also, and him who has no helper. He will spare the poor and needy, and will save their souls. He will redeem them [with His blood] from oppression and violence… (v. 18,) Blessed be the Lord God, Who only does wondrous things! And blessed be His glorious Name forever…” 

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