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Renette Vermeulen




Proverbs 29:8-9, “Scoffers [mockers, persecutors, provokers, fake believers] set a city aflame, but wise men [try to] turn away wrath.  If a wise man contends with a foolish man, whether the fool rages or laughs, there is no peace.” 




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Please note 

The study of human behavior, as also found in psychology but not so much in psychiatry, is the crux of this article; confirmed and guided by the never-changing, Scriptural Word of the Lord Jesus Christ.  Nevertheless, as many psychologists also use psychiatry in their “talk therapy,” one must be careful to “test and prove everything to see if it is from God,” (1 Ths. 5:21-22.)  Additionally, where the word “victim” is used, it does not mean a “victim mentality that merely seeks sympathy” or anything similar.  It factually refers to the true “injured parties,” “fatalities,” or “casualties” of barnyard bullies, narcissists, psychopaths, and other sadists. 



Referring to the article on narcissist ‘personality disorder,’ someone asked, “Is it possible that it’s actually demons living out their desires and personalities through narcissists? Or can this be an ‘inherited illness’ because, [like symptoms of the flu,] the ‘character traits’ of narcissists are nearly exactly the same across cultures, religions, social status, etcetera?”

Interesting question, thank you.  Scripturally and practically it is certain that demons are behind all sin, (1 Jn. 5:19.)  Narcissism, as any “personality disorder” and even real mental illness, knows no race, social status, or gender.  Narcissists are not people who merely “like” themselves.  They are deeply disturbed destroyers of the innocent and unwary. 

In general, psychiatrists deny the spirit world.  Yet, they agree that narcissists and other unhinged people “have uncanny abilities.”  E.g., one cannot conceal anything from them; they use their so-called ESP (extra sensory perception) or guiding demons to reveal what they want to know, find those who are hiding from them, and detect things that were stowed away from them.  That is also how they deflect responsibility for their crimes, gain control over people, commit emotional and physical murder, and keep up serial adultery and child molestation, (among many other sexual and other addictions.)   

Concerningly, they seem to get away with it all.  It is clear that their master mindedness can only come from Satan.  At a single glance, most of them will know exactly what is in a room and how to steal or destroy it. They can ‘read’ the needs and desires of other people, and ‘know’ how to do the most harm to everyone in ways that would totally devastate them. 

By spiritually and emotionally blinding their victims with great ease, narcissists trap people through fake parenthood, fake marriages, other pretended relationships, and shady business transactions; placing the abused traumatically under shame and bankruptcy to play their sadistic mind games and to enrich themselves. The aim is to make their victims think they, (the victims,) are going mad, (called gaslighting;) they cannot live without them, (trauma bonding,) must fully submit to them, etcetera.  Every single crime they commit builds their egos and supposedly makes them more invincible and untouchable.  This gives them greater reason to worship themselves and become craftier in all forms of ruin.

¨ We know strong demons indwell sexually immoral people because 1 Corinthians 6:15-20 state that our bodies, (human spirits, and souls or ‘minds,’) must be the temple of the indwelling Holy Spirit and so, true believers are “one in body with Christ.”  Hence, the Spirit does not share His holy temple with demons in any way.  If people commit sexual immorality, they immediately become “one” in body, soul, and spirit with that prostitute.  (Immoral people of both genders are harlots.) What’s more, demons never work alone. E.g., if someone commits adultery, it’s not just a demon of lust indwelling that person. It's friends Hyper-sexuality, Perversion, Lies, Deception, Manipulation, Underhandedness, Stealth, Kleptomania, Hypocrisy, Sadism, Violence and many more, cohabit with that demon infested person to obliterate the innocent through him or her. Narcissists will never let go of their demons. They thrive on the ‘excitement and rush’ of committing sin on all levels of life to prove how powerful, clever, and irresistible they are.

¨ As a result, the victims of these Satanists, (only those sold to Satan can use demonic power to such extremes,) often experience demonic harassment without suspecting the “ladies or gentlemen” that live under their own roofs.  It might seem inconceivable, but narcissists and other unstable people effortlessly ‘channel’ demons to do their dirty work for them from the spirit world as well. Supernatural control gives them an even greater thrill, which they thoroughly enjoy. They can also set up 'watchers' or demons to monitor their victims and do other nasty things, just as other Satanists do. 

¨ In the beginning, narcissists might not be aware that they have demonic ‘powers,’ but they sure learn how to use their “uncanny abilities” as they exercise these destructive practices during the course of their lives. An often overlooked fact is that Satan can use human spirits, (1 Thessalonians 5:23,) to leave their bodies, (Astro Travel,) to harass and harm their victims.  Narcissists and other disturbed people who are fuelled by such devouring hatred for God and people are certainly under the full control of the evil one, although they usually feign faith in Jesus, (1 Jn. 3:15; 10:10.)  


It is another fact that perverted sex addiction in all it’s unmentionable forms possess the minds of narcissists.  And where addiction to sex is, violence and all other types of addiction follow, (1 Jn. 3:15.)  Malachi 2:13-16 make it clear that where there is violence in a marriage, fornication and adultery are at its rootsSexual sin is the great debasement that leads to emotional and physical murder in relationships, marriages, families, and societies, (1 Jn. 3:15.) 

¨ The notorious narcissist-psychopath serial killer Ted Bundy said, “All the violent offenders I met in prison, just like me, without question or exception, every one of them was deeply involved, influenced, addicted, and consumed by pornography… [and all other types of fornication and adultery, which is going after strange flesh,]” (Jude verses 6-8.) 

¨ Sexual sin is the ultimate hate crime against our Most Holy God, as the human body that He “created in His image” must be “a holy temple of the indwelling Holy Spirit.”  So, narcissists target His holy marriage covenant, innocent spouses,  their own families, and molest and rape children and other helpless victims such as animals, (1 Cor. 6:15-20.)  Satan aims to destroy all holiness and innocence from an early age.  Hence, transgender, homosexual, and child molesters of both sexes trauma bond their victims not only emotionally, but physically to them.  This is the easiest way to gain control over the abused; hopefully for the rest of their lives, (1 Cor. 6:15-20.) 

¨ To first give and then withhold ‘acceptance,’ ‘love,’ attention, and intimacy is, therefore, just another form of narcissistic control. After "love-bombing" their victims to get them into their clutches, they then gain great satisfaction from denying all forms of love and acceptance.  Even parents use this strategy to treason-bond their children to them in physical and/or emotional harlotry. The more they abuse them, the more their victims “love” them!  (Called Stockholm Syndrome.)  To narcissists, sexual perversion that is yoked to emotional destruction and violence in various forms, are superpower “supplies” to make them into Mighty Mice. The dirtier, stealthier, and crueller their abuse; the ‘grander’ and more ‘invincible’ they think they become. 

Narcissists also achieve ultimate control by continually raising the bar to please them.  No matter how hard the abused try, they can never please narcissists, and so, their love and acceptance always elude them.  In this way, they systematically move their victims from one level of excitement, filth, confusion, fear, desperation, violence, (the ‘passive’-aggression of covert narcissism as well,) to another.  Nothing is enough for narcissists.  Except for emotional harlotry, they are either constant whoremongers on the prowl for new and more victims to 'supply' their ego greed, or secretly, they are ‘frigidly' addicted to porn and masturbation, to never let anyone have control over them by 'feeding' themselves.

¨ Narcissists live for the excitement of the moment to conquer, and the rush to not be figured out or caught.  Hence, good spouses and other victims can never catch them or make sense of them; and real love never enters the picture. They are always secretly into all kinds of perverted sin somewhere, which they will pursue at any cost, as it blows the troubled minds of their victims to try and understand the heaps of ‘whys,’ ‘hows,’ and ‘what-nows’ that shatter all sense and logic, because the brilliance of narcissistic abuse goes way beyond everything that is human. To get away with it all is their proverbial ‘cherry on the cake.’  It ‘proves’ to them how “stupid, worthless, inhuman, and undeserving of their attention,” their victims really are. 


That being said, we cannot merely focus on the supernatural when we must deal with narcissists or anything else.  Although “our battle is not against flesh and blood but against the [demons that empower them; Ephesians 6:12-13,]” we live on an emotional and physical level as well.  Thus, we cannot shove all the guilt on the devil and think we can change the person.  

Narcissists are not merely selfish people but “dangerous lovers of themselves,” (2 Tim. 3:1-7.) 

¨ The greatest peril they pose to people is the fact that they are perfect pretenders.  They impersonate gentlemen and ladies so flawlessly that no outsider would believe what cancerous, disturbed sadists live inside them.  They reserve their progressive destruction for those whom they wilfully chose to enslave through their initial “goodness.”  Then they systematically smother them with confusion by alternating between “love” and emotional murder on levels that are too genius for the mind of a normal human being to understand.  When you hear a story from a narcissist, you might never suspect it, but they constantly lie and twist facts to manipulate and deceive people.  They can succeed in all these devious trickery because narcissists are psychopaths that are “past [or without] feeling,” as Paul explained in Ephesians 4:17-19. So, knowing perfectly well what morality is, just like “their father the devil... who transforms himself into an angel of light,” they neither consider nor fear the consequences of the pain and destruction they inflict on the spirits, bodies, souls or minds, work, and goods of those, whom they have chosen to keep as their lifelong boxing bags, (2 Cor. 11:14-15; Jn. 8:44 KJV.) 

Thus, there is no end to the suffering and chaos narcissists cause because they ‘need’ to torture people to feed their own insatiable egos.  As they only have real empathy for themselves, narcissists will never show genuine interest or defend you in any given situation; unless they are following a hidden agenda like winning your trust now to betray you later, known as trauma and treason bonding

¨ They also derive intense pleasure from watching how other torturers make you suffer.  They are disinterest cowards that only defend themselves.  Especially when they are exposed, narcissists know how to play the victim by shifting their blame unto their captives to vindicate themselves without ever taking responsibility for either their underhanded or obvious crimes.  E.g., “You are mad to say I assault you — you assault, torture, and falsely accuse me!”  “You have totally lost your mind to say I steal and break your stuff; you steal and break mine!”  “You are sick in the head to say I constantly threaten, torment, assault, and swear at you; that is exactly what you do to me day and night!  You never, never, let up on anything and are going to hell because you never forgive and move forward; it’s all your fault, you mentally sick, filthy-minded whore!”  The truth is that forgiveness and repentance from sin can never be separated! 

This proves that in reality, narcissists are brilliant shape-shifters who also make solemn promises by even swearing before God that they tell the truth and will change; just to break every one of their agreements to get away with sin.  For them, forgiveness is merely a licence to escalate their abuse.  They will always lie, deceive, manipulate, give false hope, and then callously discard you as they flatly refuse to repent from the decimation they constantly exert on their victims.  So, forgiving narcissists as a solution to the constant disappointment they cause, is simply a waste of time and energy.  They designed such provocation and treason to squash you under the weight of never-ending confusion and utter despair. 


The consensus among psychiatrists and psychologists seems to be that this is not a mental illness, but a lifestyle choice.  Yet, other psychologists and psychiatrists, (even those who acknowledge Jesus and the spirit world,) illogically argue that alcoholism, drug addiction, and ‘personality disorders’ are ‘illnesses,’ which people ‘inherit' from their ancestors.  If this is correct, we must beware of those contagious liquor bottles, aggressive drugs, and inherited ancestor blood types, lest they jump on us!  Sadly, even Christian counsellors use that lame excuse of blame shifting instead of teaching people to take personal responsibility for their sinful decisions and actions.  No one will be able to say to God, “The devil [or worse, God Himself] made me do it!”  1 John 16:8-11 declare that “the whole world” or every person on earth is under the conviction of the Holy Spirit concerning sin, righteousness [through Jesus,] and judgment [for rejecting Him and disobeying the truth of His Word.]  Thus, not a single person is living in sin without ‘knowing’ what they do.  James 1:13-18 teach, “Let no one say “I am tempted of God [or the devil...]  Each one is tempted and drawn away by his own desires…  Do not be deceived… every... perfect gift is from… the Father of lights, with Whom there is no variation or shadow of turning...”  Still, Jesus brought the oppression of the innocent in perspective in Luke 17:1-3, when he condemned those who use “offenses or stumbling blocks” to push His people into hopelessness and sin.  He declared, “...Woe to him through whom [offenses] come!  It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea, than to make one of [My innocent disciples] stumble.” 

¨ Sadly, narcissist do not give a damn about what Jesus said — although they can most blasphemously feign discipleship in Him!  (2 Tim. 3:1-7.)  They are consumed by self-adoration, and to decidedly live a completely double life as described above, is just one “character trait” that demands super intelligence, precise calculation, and self control.  This refute all claims that narcissists are mentally ill and not responsible for their habitual crimes, although they also hide behind a façade of memory loss when it suits them.  Their mostly covert abilities and crimes transcend the natural world, which prove that they belong to the devil, as Jesus said to the Pharisees in John 8:44, “You [unrepentant sinners] are of your father the devil, [as] his desires you want to do.  He was [a physical and emotional] murderer from the beginning and does not stand in the truth, as there is no truth in him.  When he lies, he speaks from his own resources, [not from mental illness,] for he is a liar and the father of lies...”  So, all those who lack moral conscience and never repent from their sin, are real Satanists.  “Whoever is [sincerely] born of God does not sin [habitually...] but the whole [wilfully unrepentant] world is in the power of the evil one,” (Jam. 3:2; 1 Jn. 5:18-19.)  Jesus gave us this infallible guideline in Matthew 7:15-20 to know who we are dealing with, “You shall know them by their [habitual] fruit.”  But narcissists, creating the “reality” or perceptions of victims through manipulation and other deceptions, fervently deny this truth.  They are always “future faking;” making promises they never intend to keep while demanding constant “forgiveness,” which they never base on sincere confession of sin or repentance from sin, but on acceptance of their abuse. 

¨ Although demons are behind all sin and their possession of persistent, unrepentant sinners is a reality, the “character traits” of narcissism, as most other behavior disorders, were also cultivated by the activities of parents and other family members, because the stubborn mindset to arrogantly steal, oppress, adulterate, and destroy as they please, runs in families, (1 Cor. 15:33 KJV.)  God actually warned in Exodus 20:5-6, “...I will [allow] the iniquity, [their devastating behavior,] to visit [the next disobedient generations,] while I will [protect] thousands of those who love Me and keep My commandments.”  This “visitation of iniquity” is explained in Jeremiah 2:19, “Your own wickedness will correct you…”  And in Galatians 6:7-9, “Do not be deceived; God is not mocked.  Whatever a man sows, that he will also reap…” 

¨ So, the “visitation of sinful behavior” is not an “inherited curse or evil bloodline,” which even true believers are allegedly subject to, as churches teach, (Eph. 1:12-14.)  We all live our lives by choice where spiritual and many other important things are concerned, (Jn. 1:12-13.)  We were all exposed to families “that hate God” (Exodus 20:1-6) in some way or another.  But narcissists, psychopaths, and other toxic people are powered by their “own sinful desires,” while they blame their victims for everything, (Jam, 1:13-8.)  To get their ultimate “high,” they chose to adopt the devastating attributes that give them the most power and control over unsuspecting and helpless people, (Rom. 3:9-26.) 


We can safely say that “narcissistic personality disorder” is a full-blown, self-willed, chosen addiction to self-worship, which is powered by demons, (2 Tim. 3:1-9.)  Narcissists are enslaved to anything they can use to dominate and torture other people.  Some of their other prominent instruments of oppression that work through trauma and treason bonding are slander, pornography, adultery, kleptomania, so-called ‘passive’-aggressive behavior which is actually secret violence and covert narcissism, money, alcoholism, drug addiction, and cruel mind games, while they also choose to use demonic manifestations against their victims. The latter proves beyond a shadow of doubt that they are true Satanists. 

Still, while Satan can make it difficult for us to obey God, he does not have the power to force even unbelievers to commit sin; they must choose to do his will.  There is no such thing that humans lack a free will, as far as it is physically and mentally possible for them to choose, (Deut. 30:19!)  However, once we choose to unrepentantly embrace our sin like narcissists do, we will also become psychopaths who have no conscience or ethics; except for a perfect pretence of morality when we choose to do “good,” with the motive of capturing hapless victims and deceive gullible bystanders. 

So, the handiest strategy of narcissists to put legitimate confrontation down, is to attack the peace seeker with absolute denial of the facts while totally refusing to listen to important reasoning, (Mt. 5:21-24.)  If this do not get them out of truth’s way, (Luke 17:1-3,) they will stand their false ground as if they were cast in concrete.  They will immovably ignore those who choose to resolve conflicts according to God’s Word, (Mt. 18:15-20; Jam. 5:16,) and/or they will aggressively dominate them with deafening shouting, swearing, and by hurling false accusations at them such as lying, fabricating facts and events, and being absolutely mindless and crazy.  If that does not work, they will resort to violence, and afterward, they will continue their “self-defence” tactics covertly by sabotaging and terrorizing them in various ways. 

¨ So, even the concept of ‘learned behavior patterns,’ does not fully explain the severe problem-behaviors of narcissist psychopaths.  The only other explanation is that their behavior patterns are identical because the same type of demons inhabit them and conduct their thoughts and behavior through them.  Thus, I see all ‘personality disorders’ as a combination of free choice, self-taught behavior, and demonic control. 

Narcissists use all the above mentioned mechanisms of abuse both covertly and openly to feed their insatiable egos by terrorising and secretly sabotaging their victims to enslave them to their control.  In this way, they actually strive to define the reality, (thoughts, beliefs, and memories) of their victims, which is a state of ultimate mind control.  And yes, they derive intense, sadistic pleasure from slow, methodical emotional and even physical murder, (especially by calculatingly destroying the health of their victims through their constant chaos and confusion,) while they hide behind the façade of support, niceness, and humbleness — until they choose to reveal themselves to their victims overtly as the unteachable, unreachable, merciless oppressors, which they actually are.  One can really do nothing to help a narcissist. Whether one prays, confronts, pleads, cries, explains, tries to build up, compliments, teaches, fights… narcissists see every single reaction, either positive or negative, as a ‘power supply’ to feed their grandiosity.   Total control of their victims is the name of the narcissist game. 

All victims of narcissism can do to find closure or to get free, is to acquire the necessary knowledge about narcissism to understand what they have been dealing with until now and why this is never-ending in narcissist terms.  It is as Jesus said, “You shall know the truth, and the truth [about the person, situation, and above all the Word of God,] will set you free.” 

Then, by the grace of God, the abused must help themselves by preserving their own souls, physical lives, and eternal lives in heaven. They must seek God’s face and physically flee, or withdraw spiritually and emotionally as far as possible from narcissists, and give them only the most necessary or unavoidable attention, (Eph. 5:11-14; 2 Cor. 6:14; 1 Cor. 15:33.) 

God commanded in Proverbs 22:10, “Cast out the scoffer, and contention will leave.  Yes, strife and reproach will cease.” 

It is important to remember that every time you face-off with a narcissist, you are actually confronting and talking to a whole clan of Satan's demons.  Thus, one can never win any argument, get the truth about anything, or hope that the narcissist will change.  No one can get through to a person who chooses his or her powerful demons instead of choosing Jesus — or real peace with you.  Narcissists are truly a lost case as they persistently and unrepentantly choose to wallow in their sewerage hole of sin.  One can do absolutely nothing to change anything about the situation — and even God does not save or change anyone without their consent and sincere commitment to accept and follow Him by dying to sin and self.  Sadly, crucifying themselves, whom they adore as gods, is the last thing narcissists will do. 


Þ Narcissists are everywhere, and they are dangerous predators of destruction

Þ The book, What a narcissist clan can do to their unsuspecting victims 

Þ The struggles of people who were sexually abused are multifold