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Renette Vermeulen




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The study of human behavior, as also found in psychology but not so much in psychiatry, is the crux of this article; confirmed and guided by the never-changing, Scriptural Word of the Lord Jesus Christ.  Nevertheless, as many psychologists also use psychiatry in their “talk therapy,” one must be careful to “test and prove everything to see if it is from God,” (1 Ths. 5:21-22.)  Additionally, where the word “victim” is used, it does not mean a “victim mentality that merely seeks sympathy” or anything similar.  It factually refers to the true “injured parties,” “fatalities,” or “casualties” of barnyard bullies, narcissists, psychopaths, and other sadists. 


Related Articles:

¨ Narcissists are Everywhere, and they are Dangerous, Stealthy Predators of Destruction

¨ The book, What a Narcissist Clan can do to Unsuspecting Victims  

¨ So-called ‘passive’ aggressive behavior is covert narcissism             

¨ The Struggles of People who were Sexually Abused are Multifold 

¨ Psychopathic Freaks that Deceive and Control us  

¨ How to avoid getting stuck in relationships with psychopathic narcissists


Relating to the article on narcissist ‘personality disorder,’ someone asked, “Is it possible that it’s actual demons living out their personalities through narcissists? Or can this be an ‘inherited illness’ because narcissists, as all other mentally disturbed people, have similar traits and patterns, and other things in common?”

Interesting questions, thank you.  Scripturally and practically, it is certain that demons are behind all sin, (1 Jn. 5:19.)  Narcissism, as any other “personality disorder,” knows no race, social status, or gender.  Psychologists agree that this is not a mental illness, but a lifestyle choice.  Yet psychologists, who mostly do not acknowledge the spirit world, illogically argue that alcoholism and drug addiction are ‘illnesses’ that people ‘inherit' from their parents. So, beware those contagious and inherited liquor bottles and addictive drugs lest they 'jump' on you!  Of course, most people use that lame excuse or “blame shifting” instead of taking personal responsibility for their decisions and actions.  As pride consume all narcissists, the one thing they will never do, is to willingly take responsibility for their crimes.  Even if they do confess some of the devastations they have committed, it will only be to manipulate the situation so they can argue themselves out of fixes

Though demons are behind all sin and their possession of sinners without Christ is a reality, the “character traits” of narcissism, as most other behavior disorders, were cultivated by the activities of parents, other family members, and friends, as the irresponsible, selfish destruction of narcissism does run in families, (1 Cor. 15:33 KJV.)  God actually warned in Exodus 20:5-6, “...I will [allow] the iniquity, [their sinful behavior,] to visit [the next generations,] while I will show mercy to thousands of those who love Me and keep My commandments.”  So, the “visitation of sinful behavior” is not an “inherited, cursed state,” which, supposedly, even true believers are subject to, as false dogmas teach, (Eph. 1:12-14.) 

All people were exposed to families “that hate God” in some way or another, but narcissists, psychopaths, and other toxic people are those who, powered by their own sinful desires, (James 1:13-8,) personally chose to adopt the destructive attributes, which give them the most power and control over other people to get their ultimate “high,” (Rom. 3:9-26.)  

Satan cannot force even unbelievers to commit the sins, which they reject.  However, once they choose to embrace their sin like narcissists did, they become psychopaths who have no conscience or ethics; except for a perfect show or enactment of morality when they choose to do “good” to deceive and capture their victims, and impress outsiders. 

¨ So, knowing perfectly well what morality is, just like “their father the devil who transforms himself into an angel of light,” (2 Cor. 11:14-15; Jn. 8:44 KJV,) narcissist-psychopaths are “past [or without] feeling,” as Paul explained in Ephesians 4:17-19.  And they neither consider nor fear consequences to the demolition, which they inflict on the human spirits, bodies, souls, work, and goods of people, whom they have chosen to be their lifelong punching bags.  There is no end to the suffering and chaos narcissists cause, because they need to torture people to feel great, and only have empathy for themselves.  So, never expect a narcissist to defend you in any given situation.  They are disinterest cowards that will only defend themselves with all their might. 


However, the concept of ‘learned behavior patterns,’ does not fully explain the severe problem behavior of narcissist psychopaths.  The only other explanation is that narcissistic behavior patterns are identical because the same clusters of demons inhabit them and conduct their thoughts and behavior.  Thus, I see all ‘personality disorders’ as a combination of learned behavior, and demonic control. 

The core of “narcissistic personality disorder” contains a full-out, self-willed, chosen addiction to sin and self-worship.  Narcissists are enslaved to power, control, and anything else they can use to dominate other people.  Among their most powerful instruments of oppression are sadism, debased sex, violence, (so-called ‘passive’-aggressive behavior is secret violence and covert narcissism,) money, alcoholism, drug addiction, mind games, chaos, and all other kinds of twisted 'gratification.'  They use all these forms of abuse covertly and openly to feed their insatiable egos by exerting power over people.  Through these mechanisms of control, they actually define the reality, (thoughts and beliefs,) of their victims.  Narcissists believe they are gods that can do anything to manipulatively and/or forcefully enslave their victims to their torture.  And yes, they derive intense, sadistic pleasure from systematic emotional and even physical murder, (especially by methodically destroying the health of their victims by creating constant chaos and confusion,) while they hide behind the façade of support, niceness, and humbleness — until they choose to reveal themselves to their victims overtly as the unteachable, unreachable, merciless controllers, which they actually are. 


It is a fact that sex addiction in all it’s unmentionable forms possessed narcissists.  And where addiction to perverted sex is, violence and all other forms of torture follow, (1 Jn. 3:15.)  The Book of Malachi 2:13-16, makes it clear that where there is violence in a home, (and person,) fornication and adultery are at its root.  Sexual sin is the great perversion that leads to emotional and physical murder in relationships, marriages, and among families, (1 Jn. 3:15.)  The narcissist-psychopath serial killer Ted Bundy said, “All the violent offenders I met in prison, just like me, without question or exception, every one of them was deeply involved, influenced, addicted, and consumed by pornography…” [and all other types of fornication and adultery, which is “going after strange flesh,” Jude verses 6-8.] 

Sexual sin is the ultimate hate crime against God, the human body that was “crated in His image,” His holy marriage covenant, and His “all-good” creation in the form of bestiality and other abuse. 

So, this is what Satan aims for from an early age, as trauma bonding them to abusers is the easiest way to gain control over people, (1 Cor. 6:15-20.)  Narcissists addict their victims by molestation, dirty sex, and violence such as rape.  They also become powerful ‘sex masters’ of confusion by either pretending they love them and then by cheating on them; (treason bonding.)  Overbearing them with sex and then withholding it from them, (frigidity.) And they systematically move their victims from one form of excitement, filth, mind control, violence, (‘passive’-aggression or covert narcissism as well,) to the other.  Nothing is ever enough for them.  So, they are either constant whoremongers to 'supply' their own ego greed, or they are 'frigidly' addicted to porn and masturbation to never let anyone have control over them by 'feeding' themselves.

To give and withhold intimacy is, therefore, just forms of narcissist power and control. After "love-bombing" their victims to get them into their clutches, they then benefit from withholding all forms of intimacy to trauma-bond their victims to them. To narcissists, sexual perversion, yoked to violence in various forms, are just “power supplies” to make them into Mighty Mice. The dirtier, stealthier, and crueller; the grander they think they become.

They live for the excitement of the moment to conquer, and the rush to not be figured out or caught. Hence, good spouses can never satisfy them or be enough for them, and real love never enters the picture. They are always secretly into all kinds of perverted sex and other sin somewhere, which they will pursue at any cost, as that blows their troubled minds beyond everything that is human. To get away with it all, is the proverbial ‘cherry on the cake.’ It proves to them how stupid, worthless, and undeserving their victims really are. Their genius abuse truly goes way beyond all understanding because it stems directly from the demonic world.


Psychiatrists deny the spirit worldYet, they agree that narcissists and other disturbed people “have uncanny abilities.” E.g., one cannot hide anything from them; they use their so-called ESP (extra sensory perception) or guiding demons to reveal what they want to know, how to gain control over people, commit emotional murder, deflect responsibility for their violence, (E.g., “You assault and abuse yourself; I am innocent and you also abuse me!”) robbery, theft, child molestation, adultery, etcetera, and how to get away with it all. As most other disturbed people, they commit such genius crimes and are so backhanded, their master mindedness can only come from Satan. At a single glance, some will know exactly what is in a room and how to steal or destroy it. They can ‘read’ the needs and desires of their victims, and ‘know’ how to do the most harm to them by stealing especially that which money cannot buy, (trust, respect, self-worth, love, faith, fidelity, relationships…)

With great ease, they rob people through fake parenthood and fake marriages, other pretended relationships, and business transactions; placing the abused traumatically under shame and bankruptcy to play their sadistic mind games. The aim is to make their victims think they, (the victims,) are going mad, (called gaslighting;) they cannot live without them, (trauma bonding,) etcetera. Every single crime they commit builds their egos and supposedly makes them more invincible and untouchable.  This gives them greater reason to worship themselves and become craftier in all forms of ruin.

¨ The victims of these Satanists, (only those sold to Satan can use demonic power to such extremes,) often experience demonic harassment without suspecting the “ladies or gentlemen” under their own roofs.  It might seem inconceivable, but narcissists and other disturbed people effortlessly ‘channel’ demons to do their dirty work for them from the spirit world as well. Supernatural control gives them an even bigger power thrill, which they thoroughly enjoy. They can also set up 'watchers' or demons to monitor their victims and do other nasty things, just as other Satanists do. 

¨ In the beginning, narcissists might not be aware that they have demonic ‘powers,’ but they sure learn how to use their “uncanny abilities” as they also practice these destructive actions during the course of their lives. An often overlooked fact is that Satan can use their human spirits to leave their bodies, (called Astro Travel,) to harass and harm their victims.  Those who are fuelled by such devouring hatred for God and people, are certainly under the control of the evil one, although they usually feign faith in Jesus Christ, (1 Jn. 3:15.)  They are vessels of emotional and physical murder as sure as there is a dark part of the spirit world where demons rule. 

We know demons indwell sexually immoral people because 1 Cor. 6:15-20 state that our bodies, (human spirits, and souls or ‘minds,’) must be the temple of the indwelling Holy Spirit and so, true believers are “one in body with Christ.”  Hence, the Spirit does not share His holy temple with demons in any way.  If people commit sexual immorality such as fornication and adultery, they immediately become “one” in body, soul, and spirit with that prostitute.  (Both male and female immoral people are harlots.) What’s more, demons never work alone. E.g., if someone commits adultery, it’s not just a demon of lust indwelling that person.  It's friends called Hyper-sexuality, Perversion, Lies, Deception, Manipulation, Underhandedness, Stealth, Theft, Hypocrisy, Violence, and many more, co-habit this demon infested person to obliterate the innocent.  Narcissists will never let go of their demons. They thrive on the ‘excitement and rush’ of sin to prove how clever and irresistible they are.


One can really do nothing to help a narcissist. Whether one prays, confronts, pleads, cries, explains, tries to build up, compliments, teaches, fights… narcissists see every single reaction, either positive or negative, as a ‘power supply’ to feed their grandiosity and self-importance.   Control of their victims in totality is the name of the narcissist game. 

All victims of narcissism can do to "find closure" or to get free, is to acquire the necessary knowledge about narcissism to understand what they have been dealing with until now.  It is as Jesus said, “You shall know the truth, and the truth [about the person, situation, and above all the Word of God,] will set you free.” 

Then, the abused must help themselves by preserving their own souls, physical lives, and eternal lives in heaven. They must physically flee and/or withdraw spiritually and emotionally as far as possible from narcissists, and give them only the most necessary or unavoidable attention, (Eph. 5:11-14; 2 Cor. 6:14; 1 Cor. 15:33.) 

God commanded in Proverbs 22:10, “Cast out the scoffer, and contention will leave.  Yes, strife and reproach will cease.” 

It is important to remember that every time you face-off with a narcissist, you are actually confronting and talking to a whole clan of Satan's demons.  Thus, one can never win any argument, get the truth about anything, or hope that the narcissist will change.  No one can get through to a person who chooses his or her powerful demons instead of choosing Jesus — or you.  Narcissists are truly a lost case as they persistently and unrepentantly choose to live and grow in their sewerage hole of sin.  One can do absolutely nothing to change anything about the situation — and even God does not save or change anyone without their consent and sincere commitment to accept and follow Him by dying to sin and self.  Sadly, crucifying themselves, whom they adore, is the last thing narcissists will ever do. 


Þ Narcissists are everywhere, and they are dangerous predators of destruction

Þ The book, What a narcissist clan can do to their unsuspecting victims 

Þ Dealing with Continuous Sin and Wilfully Unrepentant Loved Ones 

Þ Great, irreconcilable differences between psychiatry and Scriptural Truth 


My soul is Calm and Quiet like a weaned child